“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” 1 Corinthians 13:4. Envy isn’t something that is talked about in marriage but it is one of those sneaky deadly sins that can squash love. Marriage means working together as a team but assuming different roles. We are gifted with different talents and abilities and each family has different needs that require unique sacrifices from each person. A couple becomes one when they say “I do” and that oneness is a merging together of two very different individuals.
On top of our differences, life comes with many crazy seasons! Some call for more sacrifice by one spouse than another. Your partner may become ill and you have to take up the slack to care for them and all the other needs of the rest of the family for a season. Your spouse may be working towards growing a business or is going back to school, requiring extra work on the part of their partner. Whatever the scenario, there are times in marriage when life and its responsibilities are not divided equally between a man and a wife.
When we walk through these “uneven seasons” beware the enemy of our souls loves to plant the lie of envy into our minds. Be honest with your spouse and with God and allow the Holy Spirit to reveal the places envy has stopped you from joyfully loving your spouse. With kind words share your struggle with your partner, so they can offer their support and assurance that you are on the same team in life. Your spouse’s wins are your wins, so there is no room for envy in marriage, #OnlyLove.
Regards,Evans Mose,P.o Box 1109 – 00518,Nairobi Kenya.